Losses of Great Women: Depths of Grief are measures of How much we loved them!
Back to back losses of great women, Roslynn at 42yo, Sokie at 62yo, Zenaida, 87yo, May at 100yo, all selfless women of substance.
I got these life lessons from them:
Roslynn – keep elevating artists and creatives, regardless…
Sokie – keep caring, keep dreaming, keep making joy…, regardless..
Zenaida – immigrant with resilience, grace, love and selflessness towards anyone, and a passion to dance. Her funeral was standing room only, full chapel, that showed her love for folks was reciprocated.
May – noticed the goodness in folks and kept giving and loving others. She was a Saint! She was a good Jew who loved folks of all colors. Her house was full of folks who loved her.
May whispered to me, when her frail hands could no longer write:”You are a good mensch. I pray for you everyday, though I have no gift to give you now.” She used to handwrite yearly Christmas card for us with her favorite box of chocolate covered raisins. I held her hand and said to May, “your smile and your great example of grace are enough. I love you.”
I am grateful we were all present for her centennial birthday, her family, her neighbors, her caring and loving caregiver, Michelle. I asked my warm hearted friend Ed Rame to arrange 100 roses while Loida and friends stayed up late to blow up the balloons and decorate.
Her family was oozing with experiences of her love for them. Zach always had his Danish, waiting for him. Samantha reported all her triumphs and accomplishments to May.
Ester, her loving daughter, said her mom was cared for by earth angels: Michelle, Loida, Nora – all Filipinas who gave her loving care, for 15 years.
Tell folks you love them! It might be your last opportunity. Fill up your heart with love and forgiveness – that’s all that matters till the end.
Happy New Year! In the meantime, a burial to attend. Love is irreplaceable!
“A good name is rather to be, chosen than great riches.”
I love you all stalwart women of substance and selflessness! See you all in heaven, not in a hurry, as I have grandchildren to take care of.”- Prosy Abarquez-Delacruz, Dec. 27, 2023