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Reflections on #Maharlika2023la’s First Birthday: A Day of Joy, Discovery, and Love

#maharlika2023la turned 1yo today. I greeted him by singing happy birthday and recited our affirming message that he is handsome, kind, loving, and compassionate. He smiled and clapped his hands.

My house is topsy-turvy but he enjoyed himself, discovered different parts of the house to play in, but mostly to climb stairs and walk. He just needs one of my fingers to hold onto while he walks. #maharlika2023la found this book, Goodnight Moon, a favorite of my children and #princess2015la. He persisted in turning the pages and when he got to the cow page, he lingered. He took the photo frames and starting vocalizing something to the photos of his mom and his sister.His appetite was good today. He had raspberries, banana blueberry bread, Mac and cheese, tangerines, and spoons of nachos with guacamole. More solids than milk, and more coconut water. He was well rested, had two naps. Lolo was a big help in getting him to take a nap.I love seeing him go home, happy!#micasadeamore

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[COLUMN] Jennifer Punsalan Delwood: Journey To LA City Hall Marked By Grit, Glow And Grace

“I feel that she [Jennifer Punsalan Delwood] fully embodies the best of our people’s values and demonstrates that with her calm, thoughtful leadership style that enables her to be inclusive and to build movements.”- Former City of Cerritos Mayor Mark Pulido, 2023

“Authentic leadership is a type of management style in which people act in a real, genuine, and sincere way that is true to who they are as individuals. Proponents of authentic leadership say this type of leader is best positioned to inspire trust, loyalty and strong performance from employees.” –TechTarget.com

with volunteers who were working with unhoused families. Photo courtesy of Rose Ibanez

When I asked to do an interview with Los Angeles Mayor Karen Bass, it was the week marking her first year in office. She was doing the rounds of how the Inside Safe Program was taking root in Los Angeles, with 41,000 unhoused folks. She promised to house 17,000 folks by the end of that week, while 21,000 have been placed in temporary housing, some in permanent housing.

L.A. Magazine, Trevor Noah, LA Times, Evan Lovett, CALMatters, KTLA, NBC4, San Fernando Valley Business Journal, LA Business Journal, LA Magazine, ABC 7, NBC 4, KTLA, LA Daily News, Fox 11, Spectrum, and The New Yorker have interviewed her. My slot for that first week in December was rescheduled for 2024.

Though the Asian Journal was sharing communication space opportunities with the mainstream press outlets, LA City Hall’s staffers were gracious, staffers met me at the lobby, and ushered me to the office of Deputy Chief of Staff Jennifer Punsalan Delwood.

After 45 minutes of interview, Delwood brought me to the conference room where seven Filipino American staffers at the LA City Hall’s Mayor’s Office joined her for photos. They are Jeminnie De Quiros (Accountant), Rodielyn S. Aguiluz (Accountant), Max Reyes (Senior Director of Economic Policy), and Dr. Janice Lumen Andrade (newly minted EDD, Community Engagement Manager) and Anthony Ancheta (Graphic Designer). That impressed me in how inclusive she is, sharing the space with her fellow kababayans, one of whom is my community-adopted nephew, Eduardo Soriano-Hewitt, whose deceased parents were our long-time friends. Eduardo is the Chief of Public Engagement Strategies, Mayor’s Office of Public Safety. Another Filipino, Ebony Cobb (Accountant), was covering a work assignment.

Jennifer “Jenny” Punsalan Delwood is the deputy chief of staff to LA Mayor Karen Bass. She oversees a portfolio of constituent services, public engagement, legislative and governmental strategy, international affairs, budget and innovation team, operations and scheduling. She served as the former Executive Vice President at the Liberty Hill organization providing oversight on programs, grant making and strategic planning. She served as chief deputy for children, youth and families for U.S. Department of Health and Human Services and was Bass’ legislative director, according to the LA City website and her Linkedin. She has done many tours of duty with Bass.

While describing her core duties, Delwood described her two other colleagues, Solomon Rivera and Celene Cordero, who are also deputy chiefs of staff.

Her self-described traits are curiosity from community learning sessions, listening and asking questions, learning, understanding the political landscape and leveraging her knowledge and understanding community organizations and shareholders.

She speaks of her solid relationship with her boss and role model, Mayor Bass, who puts a very high value on relationship building as a collaborator and former organizer.

“I try to emulate her by always acting from a place of value and integrity,” Delwood said.

Grit: Passion and perseverance towards social justice and equity

Angela Duckworth wrote a book on grit, wherein she studied the traits of over 67 geniuses. While their traits were varied, she synthesized what was common to all: passion and perseverance to a long-term goal, not deviating in attention, a persistence of motive, a degree of will, and perseverance to stay the course. In the face of obstacles, grit is acquired by overcoming the struggles, akin to climbing mountains, powered by experiences, and after ascending a summit, a confidence is gained to try something new.

One might surmise that Pulido’s assessment of Delwood’s leadership might be overly kind, yet when one considers her ascent to important organizational leadership roles, there is verifiable proof to Pulido’s evaluation. Every climb up the ladder has been climbing a growing tree, with branches of equity, justice and progressive inclusion and unity. I was struck by the sustained commitment of her professional choices.

That period of the 1980s to the early 1990s was marked by turmoil and vigorous student activism, Pulido asserted as UCLA student body president. Delwood became the university’s second Filipino American student body president, serving from 2005 to 2006.

“Previously, we saw the largest social upheaval, the Anti-Vietnam War movement, the Black Power movements, following that, a progressive student movement evolved from these social justice movements, as well as the farmworkers’ movement, the anti-martial law struggles against Philippine dictatorship of Marcos, Sr. to the 1980s fight against apartheid in South Africa and the defense of affirmative action.

“It saw the rise of Third World Coalition at UCLA, a coming together of students of color organizations. Each of these diverse organizations maintained their unique voices, as together we built a coalition that emerged stronger following the 1992 Los Angeles Rebellion/Riots. At the start of the unrest in Los Angeles on April 29, 1992, we called for a moratorium on campaigning during the student elections that were already underway, as other universities and schools throughout Los Angeles had suspended classes, while UCLA stayed open,” Pulido shared the context at UCLA.

He continued, “When the elections for student council resumed a week later, I was elected, the first Filipino American elected to that position. Further, the largest contingenet of Asian Americans ever was elected, 9 out of 13 seats available.”

He added, “Student Power was the name of our slate and our rallying slogan.”

“There was a new sense of urgency in that decades of the 1990s: from Mandela getting released, the fight for affirmative action, to 1986 when Marcos Sr. was ousted, the Black-Korean crisis in 1992, etc. UCLA’s student organizational politics became increasingly concerned about the politics of Pico-Union, South Central and Filipinotown. After the 1990s in the mid 2000’s, coalition began to facture and by 2005, Delwood and Samahang Pilipino reached out to [me], she helped revive and restore what was at risk of being lost, I believe because of her deferential and humble style,” Pulido asserted.

Delwood, who was pursuing her bachelor’s degree in international relations and sociology, jokingly said to me during an interview: “I majored in international relations and sociology, but I studied activism.”

Delwood credited Samahang Pilipino for “ground[ing] me to my identity and in the organization, I deeply explored my identity, including how to be in solidarity with people of color and queer student activists.”

Delwood ran with a slate of folks of color and queer students “to exert our student power within the system.”

“Our fight for diversity, outreach, and just retention policies included divestment of retirement investments from Sudan [who was at war], to protect these pension funds. Mark is a dear mentor, Glo and Mark are dear mentors of mine. Mark is a foundational student leader who built foundations for subsequent generations to build activism in student government, Samahang Pilipino has been part of that coalition, [grew] into a stronger form of being active in student government,” Delwood recalled her UCLA college days.

Delwood made a mark at UCLA in changing hostile academic policies of excluding folks of color in large numbers for admission, according to a history written by Pinoy Bruins. During the period when UCLA had a hostile anti-affirmative action policy, the university accepted only 99 Black students. Delwood learned to be an activist, participated in die-ins, rallies, marches, workshops in campus and inside the administrative offices. She credited a number of student of color organizations: “Mecha, Asian Pacific Coalition, African Student Council, whose friendships lasted my entire life.” They advocated for reforms, towards a more wholistic criteria to be applied and after, more students of color were admitted into UCLA.

“I wanted to engage the students. I was in campus from 2001 to 2006. I stood on the shoulders of students of color activists before me, like the Samahang Pilipino. I was part of PCN (Pilipino Cultural Night), I was dancing, stomping my feet, in a circle, when the beads of my necklace broke during the performance, we had to stomp on those beads, and it hurt as we danced,” Delwood recalled.

Grit: ‘It hurt as we stomped our feet on those beads

Typical of her deferential style, Delwood responded to my question about her life’s journey likening it to a growing tree with branches of equity, social justice, progressive inclusion and unity, as coming from the examples of her grandparents and parents, who taught her public service with integrity and passion.

The fruit does not fall far from the tree, as the saying goes.

Her grandpa, Lt. Col. Leon Flores Punsalan of San Simon, Pampanga, lived to 91 years. He retired after 31 years in the U.S. Army, having served in WWII. He was the talk of the town, a graduate of West Point’s Class of 1936, whose academy graduates included General William Westmoreland and General Creighton Abrams.

He was the only one from the Philippines, out of 500 who took the exams, to go to West Point in 1932, with only one slot allotted. His mother went around the province to solicit financial support, as they had no means to send him to the U.S. The provincial folks of Pampanga responded with generosity, despite their very limited resources. He endured racial insults and hazing, yet excelled in physics and engineering. “It was the depression, so I had to suffer,” as reported in The Virginian Pilot, entitled “The Untold Battle Leo Punsalan Faced Envy at Home, Bigotry Abroad.”

He also received a master’s degree in mechanical engineering from Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) and got a patent for his rifle cartridge ejector invention.

Her grandma, Rosario Macrohon Punsalan, born in Zamboanga City, lived to 103 years and raised six children, 15 grandchildren and 20 great grandchildren. Her “legacy is compassion and grace. Grandma was there for all of their life’s milestones and day-to-day adventures in between,” Delwood wrote on her Facebook post.

Her mom is Frances Punsalan Wood, who taught at Val Verde Unified District, as an elementary school teacher. Her dad, Daniel Wood, worked as assistant superintendent. This photo was taken prior to her graduation at Harvard Kennedy School in May 2015, where Delwood earned a Master’s in Public Administration in the one year, mid-career program. She also continues to be involved in CORO fellows, a graduate of their leadership program.

Delwood paid homage to her ancestors, more than describing her own accomplishments. It was only after I raised more questions that she shared more of herself. I asked: “How did you manage to have your wedding, recalling three photos of an artsy image inside Renwick gallery, a photo in front of Culture House and two pairs of heels with ONLY sign, to become a community affair, mobilizing Metro DC?”

Glow of mutual love

With a huge smile, Delwood shared that then-Congresswoman Karen Bass officiated her wedding to Christine Delwood, which The Blade reported on. They had their first date four years prior, with a bike ride and later, attending Taste of DC food fest.

Inspired by that first date, they got married in a similar fashion, exchanging vows in front of family members and friends in attendance, with a reception at Taste of DC food fest. There, a special booth was prepared for them with a huge banner announcing their marriage, including getting up on a crane to get an overview of the entire food fest. That combination of intimacy and a broad overview must have solidified the ‘sense of purpose’ of their relationship.

They bought entrance tickets for their guests to the Taste of DC food fest, and they received a gift from the organizers, a giant Jenga game, which Delwood and Christine are fond of playing. Delwood simply sent an email to the organizers, a cold-call so to speak, and the organizers responded generously.

Their first dance was to their favorite, ‘Brown Eyed Girl, ‘ by Van Morrison, some lyrics excerpted here.

Hey, where did we go?

Days when the rains came

Down in the hollow

Playin’ a new game

Laughin’ and a-runnin’, hey, hey

Skippin’ and a-jumpin’

In the misty morning fog with

Our, our hearts a-thumping and you

My brown-eyed girl

And you, my brown-eyed girl

And whatever happened

To Tuesday and so slow?

Going down the old mine with a

Transistor radio

Standing in the sunlight laughing

Hiding ‘hind a rainbow’s wall

Slipping and sliding

All along the waterfall with you

My brown-eyed girl

You, my brown-eyed girl

Do you remember when we used to sing?

Grace of mentoring and working with others

Grace, coming from a Latin girl’s name, comes from the word, gratia, meaning generosity, respect, action, compassion for others and the spiritual energy that catalyzes change, also known as God’s favor or blessing.

To witness organizations transformed in one’s lifetime is grace. A more common definition is the unmerited favor of God toward man or man-made transformative actions towards the common good.

I asked Delwood if she has witnessed organizations transformed, or cultures changed, while in them. She referred to what Bass has done through the Inside Safe program, where out of 41,000 homeless, 17,000 she promised, 21,000 are housed, after her first year in office.

While at Liberty Hill Foundation, Delwood was the Executive Vice President for five years. From a base of private donors, led by Sarah Pillsbury, with a theme of Change, not Charity, the organization engaged tenants in seminars, workshops and allies, educating them on tenants’ rights, preventing homelessness, evictions, and staying housed. Before, the organization was dependent on private funding, and later, expanded to receiving public grants. It grew from 16 to now, 40 plus staffers.

“I have always viewed mentoring others as part of my civic duty, my passion, and it is nice to work with youth in public affairs program. I look to my foundational mentors like Mark and Gloria Pulido, who give back as well. Like CORO, it is an ideals project about what an organization should be, and something I enjoy,” Delwood explained the motivation behind her choices.

While working for the federal government, under Ralph Lopez, during the Obama administration, Delwood participated in full team retreats “where together, we were inspired to do more rapid rule making, focused on runaway youth, child welfare, domestic violence, and always, in a spirit of collaboration and teamwork.”

She formed her workstyle, by collaborating with Bass, who at one time, co-founded the National Foster Youth Institute, with her: “on the belief that organizing foster children, they can lead the changes for welfare reform affecting them and their families. It is how former foster youth are also part now of the oversight body,” she added.

Delwood described that she and her partner have also fostered children and shared a photo of a child on her desk, and above it, a framed kulintang (bronze gong) award from the National Federation of Filipino American Associations as an inspiring young leader. “From shadowing leaders, sitting in meetings, I learned to shift mindsets by working in communities,” she added.

Delwood shared that cultural change happens when everyone participates. She believes deeply that we have to be together, “to step in, to step up,” in order for things to be done. At this point, she informed me that Mayor Karen Bass, through the Inside Safe program, has now housed 21,000 folks.

It was a qualitative change that happened as Bass welcomed strategic advisors, their direct input and feedback, as “Mayor Bass is both visionary and chasing details on that vision,” she continued.

For self-care, she does hiking, camping, biking and “during my wedding, Christine and I rode a pedicab. A large part of my self-care is my relationship with my spouse.”

“Mayor Bass believes in family and a commitment to our personal life, making investments with our loved ones. She has a big picture, her vision, and we need to be able to execute on the little details, and not just talking. It is about getting people housed: of bringing together the city departments,” Delwood reflected on Bass’ leadership style,

“I am very fulfilled and love working with Mayor Bass, locking arms and the whole of government involved,” she added. “I am very grateful to be a small part of what is happening. I feel very fulfilled.”

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The opinions, beliefs and viewpoints expressed by the author do not necessarily reflect the opinions, beliefs and viewpoints of the Asian Journal, its management, editorial board and staff.

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Prosy Abarquez-Delacruz, J.D. writes a weekly column for Asian Journal, called “Rhizomes.” She has been writing for AJ Press for 12 years. She also contributes to Balikbayan Magazine. Her training and experiences are in science, food technology, law and community volunteerism for 4 decades. She holds a B.S. degree from the University of the Philippines, a law degree from Whittier College School of Law in California and a certificate on 21st Century Leadership from Harvard’s Kennedy School of Government. She has been a participant in NVM Writing Workshops taught by Prof. Peter Bacho for 4 years and Prof. Russell Leong. She has travelled to France, Holland, Belgium, Spain, Portugal, Japan, Costa Rica, Mexico and over 22 national parks in the U.S., in her pursuit of love for nature and the arts.

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From Rustic Warmth to Sacred Grace

You felt warmly welcomed in a rustic, country-feel, beautiful space. Then, something transformed our dinner from ordinary to a 4-course special dinner of crab and corn soup, beet salad, pesto pasta and chicken and salmon with diced zucchini and chocolate banana loaf and cheesecake for desserts.

Here is the special prayer that made us conscious in receiving our gifts of connections.

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“Our social calendar often offers us an opportunity to gain depth of who we are as people. I suspect this might be one of the reasons we invite others to enjoy an event. Likewise it is often a reason we accept invitation

Unique is this social dance is when the event itself offers a window of grace to all who enter the room.

Knowing Linda and Elaine these past five years have offered me to participate in their coordinated events whereby the time becomes sacred. Balance of art, food, space and light have allowed me to see that stories seek telling and words seek understanding.

We cross paths with each other and with open hearts at an evening like tonight we should pause. Look around the room. Be thankful for the journey that allowed us to get to this same sacred place.

Let us be humble to accept the hospitality of Linda and Elaine. We will rejoice. Be surprised and refreshed. May knowledge of heart gained this evening foster wisdom to explore our the many worlds that give life to our sacred hearts.”

Fr. Rob Carbonneau C.P. Ph.D.

Spiritual advisor

Passionist historian

University of Scranton

Scranton Pennsylvania

We were surprised that we had both tangible and intangible gifts. Have you had a host teach you flower arrangement, gives you the glass vase, the flowers, and atomizer? Elaine Quadra lays out the basics of flower arrangement. We were all her students and each is a unique arrangement.

It truly was a sacred experience of magic, joy and friendships! It was a qualitative experience!

My gratitude to the hosts Linda Crisostomo and Elaine Quadra.

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45 Years of Love and Laughter: A Memorable Anniversary Celebration in Los Angeles

Flower delivery, in walks Jaime, a 22yo nephew of Ed Rame. How beautiful to see long-stemmed 45 red roses, a gift from Enrique de la Cruz for our 45th wedding anniversary. I was all smiles and had a simple breakfast: coffee and lemon blueberry loaf, which I baked and requested by hubby.

After a few hours, we drove to #grandcentralmarket. It was packed with tourists, office workers and Los Angelenos, predominantly Latinos. A variety of choices from vegan ramen, all kinds of tacos, a lone Chinese place, no more SariSari store run by Republique, but the parol remains and the bar. I hope an enterprising Manila Inasal LA takes over, cold pressed juices, famous Donut man, more fish tacos and McConnell ice cream.

Lunch was sea urchin, fish tacos and lobster roll and two flavors of McConnell ice cream. My first time to eat sea urchin and it was a surprisingly good delicacy.

Angel’s Flight was nearby but we wanted to be home sooner, so I took more photos of the blue skies, ripples of white clouds and the hi-rises, including a wedding chapel across the street, a beautiful symbol for us celebrating our 45th wedding anniversary.

My thanks to Fr. Camilo Pacanza on our renewal of vows at our 36th anniversary- so simple, so intimate, just the two of us and Fr. Miloy.

Dinner was with our soon to be 9yo #princess2015la at our favorite celebration restaurant. It was so packed by the time we left at 8pm, good thing we were there at 630pm. Loved all that we ordered: salt-encrusted branzino, stuffed zucchini flowers, chopped salad, lemon pasta, tiramisu and chocolate mousse cake.

We had one of the best celebrations: quiet, lots of conversations, temperate weather and lots of good food.

I included Butchardt Gardens as Enrique took me and our 9 month old toddler, first born daughter to this place. All I remembered was changing diapers of my daughter’s. Fast forward to 2015, Enrique and I drove to Oregon and Washington, rode the ferry to Butchardt Gardens. It was around August 11, my birthday. I had the biggest smiles inside that garden. Enrique said I was smiling for 4 days.

Back story: My father banned me from visiting them for 2 years until Enrique and I got married. We lived together for 2 years, a taboo for a practicing Catholic household. My dad was the happiest to see us get married, 45 years ago.

Enrique set aside 5 champagne bottles from the reception, he said that I would only last 5 years. It was a challenge alright, but my conviction and unconditional love for him was stronger. Everytime my friends would hear my grievances, they would whisper to me:”he is a good man,” even if grouchy in his retirement years.

Yet, 2024, starting our 45th year, calm, peace and joy are more present than anything else.

#thankyouuniverse#thankyouhubby

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Remembering Remarkable Women: Lessons in Love and Loss

Losses of Great Women: Depths of Grief are measures of How much we loved them!

Back to back losses of great women, Roslynn at 42yo, Sokie at 62yo, Zenaida, 87yo, May at 100yo, all selfless women of substance.

I got these life lessons from them:

Roslynn – keep elevating artists and creatives, regardless…

Sokie – keep caring, keep dreaming, keep making joy…, regardless..

Zenaida – immigrant with resilience, grace, love and selflessness towards anyone, and a passion to dance. Her funeral was standing room only, full chapel, that showed her love for folks was reciprocated.

May – noticed the goodness in folks and kept giving and loving others. She was a Saint! She was a good Jew who loved folks of all colors. Her house was full of folks who loved her.

May whispered to me, when her frail hands could no longer write:”You are a good mensch. I pray for you everyday, though I have no gift to give you now.” She used to handwrite yearly Christmas card for us with her favorite box of chocolate covered raisins. I held her hand and said to May, “your smile and your great example of grace are enough. I love you.”

I am grateful we were all present for her centennial birthday, her family, her neighbors, her caring and loving caregiver, Michelle. I asked my warm hearted friend Ed Rame to arrange 100 roses while Loida and friends stayed up late to blow up the balloons and decorate.

Her family was oozing with experiences of her love for them. Zach always had his Danish, waiting for him. Samantha reported all her triumphs and accomplishments to May.

Ester, her loving daughter, said her mom was cared for by earth angels: Michelle, Loida, Nora – all Filipinas who gave her loving care, for 15 years.

Tell folks you love them! It might be your last opportunity. Fill up your heart with love and forgiveness – that’s all that matters till the end.

Happy New Year! In the meantime, a burial to attend. Love is irreplaceable!

“A good name is rather to be, chosen than great riches.”

I love you all stalwart women of substance and selflessness! See you all in heaven, not in a hurry, as I have grandchildren to take care of.”- Prosy Abarquez-Delacruz, Dec. 27, 2023