The theme of expectation and anticipation – is another great homilist.
Fr. Montoya described these feelings of anticipation and expectation linked to getting a gift, losing a job, watching games, and these two pregnancies.
One by Elizabeth, who became pregnant in her old age with Zacarias, whose son would be named John. Elizabeth had to isolate herself and stayed in seclusion for five months.
He spoke of how every cloud has a silver lining. Of how the impossibility of a barren old woman becoming pregnant and later that impossibility becomes its opposite, with faith.
Of how Mary also became pregnant with the child Jesus, where these two women became expectant with joy and pregnant with hope.
These are two stories of problems transformed into blessings, using Bishop David’s previous homily, of a mystery becoming part of us, integrated as part of our faith.
“Where shame gets transmuted to honor and where we see the joy of family, chosen by God to be lifted up with overflowing joy and guidance, and family becomes a source of rejoicing.”
It was so beautiful and moving to see a well-attended Cathderal mass overflowing to the outdoors.
Bishop Pablo Virgilio David is the elected Chair of the Catholic Bishops Conference of the Philippines and the Bishop of San Roque Cathedral in Caloocan. He is an excellent homilist. He leaves you with questions to ponder and reflect upon.
The third day of Simbang Gabi homily centered on the question: Is this a problem or a mystery?
He said, a problem, according to Gabriel Marcel, an author, looks at the situation separate from ourselves.
As an example, St. Joseph secretly decided to divorce Mary after finding out she was pregnant. He did not want to shame Mary in the community. He was trying to solve a problem.
Until, the angel came and spoke of not being afraid, as Mary has been chosen to become pregnant with the child Jesus. But what if this was not a problem, a mystery instead?
When viewed as a mystery, it is hard to understand as it is complicated – how did Mary become pregnant when not consummated marriage yet, physically?
Yet if viewed as a mystery, to understand with the heart, don’t panic, it can be comprehended and seen as not separate from ourselves.
The privilege of live-streamed masses is listening to two great homilists. The first is Fr. Montoya, l at Incarnation Church in Glendale, who spoke about “Our faith is centered on remembering” also known as Maria Ressa’s “The present moment of our past.”
He began by asking: “Is it the fault of the tree that it produces deficient fruits?” In Jesus’ religious heritage, Jacob was scheming and dishonest; David committed adultery and had the husband of his mistress killed to marry her; four women were mentioned: a seducer, another a prostitute and another committed adultery.
In Jesus’ genealogy, his ancestors did not incarnate the love of justice, fidelity, and mercy.
Is it then the fault of the tree giving these defective fruits, he asked? Should we instead look at the root of the tree, the promise of the Messiah, instead of its branches?
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“You are blessed,” said Fr. Decipeda. “When you have cancer, it means you have time to make amends, time to put your affairs in order. Everyone has a family, its own dysfunctionality. But, each family is blessed if we focus instead on the strengths, instead of the weaknesses.
He then called to the altar three couples to share how they have lasted this long.
The first couple is newly married and shares the love of God and dancing, in church activities. The second couple of 51 years shared that the husband leaves the house to avoid conflict when faced with anger; another couple of 26 years, both great singers and pianists, spoke of the difficulty of them getting pregnant.
The experiences differed yet common to all three couples were their love and commitment to one another.
Fr. Decipeda spoke of St. Paul who was loved by God even when he deemed himself unworthy of His love: “I fell, I failed and I fell from grace.”
He then spoke of vocation as a call to Holiness, by your response with commitment, therein lies your holiness.
By centering on the Eucharist, we bring back holiness to the family; thereby the family to the Church.
To see Simbang Gabi institutionalized at the Archdiocese of Los Angeles is being on the right side of history, for me. It is part of our immigrant story in Los Angeles.
I thank the pioneering priests who introduced this cultural tradition, such that now, over 40% of the over 280 parishes in the Archdiocese of LA have Simbang Gabi; as in San Francisco, Florida and even Qatar and Pope Francis celebrated Simbang Gabi in Rome, according to Fr. Rodel G.Balagtas, who introduced it to @Immaculate Heart of Mary Church in East Hollywood. A very animated adult choir, 32 plus would travel from all parts of Los Angeles with flute, cello, violin, guitars and drums to sing the best Pinoy carols under the precise baton of @Pete Avendano, with the best homilists, some came from Chicago, Butuan, and Quezon. Each morning, volunteers would feed us hot soups, congee, hard boiled eggs sandwiches and rice cakes. Those were the golden years of celebrations of GRACE!
Thousands came – it was a full Cathedral. I was teary-eyed watching this livestreamed mass at the Cathedral of Angels in #dtla. With a sore throat, I opted to protect my health and my family, with a baby on the way from my first born.
Archdiocese of LA posted:”Thousands of Filipino Catholics from throughout Southern California will celebrate the beginning of the 20th annual Simbang Gabi, one of the oldest Filipino Christmas traditions, with a special Mass on Sunday, December 15 at 6:30 PM at the Cathedral of Our Lady of the Angels, 555 W. Temple St., in downtown Los Angeles.
The Mass will be preceded by the “Parade of Parols,” or lanterns, of more than 120 parishes from the five pastoral regions in the tri-county Archdiocese (LA, Santa Barbara and Ventura)
The parols, a Philippine Christmas symbol, will be blessed at the end of the Mass. In the Philippines, the parol is used to light up people’s homes and is carried by parishioners attending Simbang Gabi Mass, or “Mass before dawn.” The procession will also include parols of religious Filipino-American organizations, civic and professional organizations, and government offices, usually led by the Philippine Consulate General.
The Filipino tradition of Simbang Gabi dates back nearly 500 years. It begins nine nights before Christmas Eve. An Advent Mass is celebrated before dawn each night in preparation for Christmas.”
Pinoy priests are not professional singers. Yet, they practiced with Pete Avendano and harmonized their voices well to sing two songs, their gift to the thousands of Filipino Americans and friends who came. What a beautiful worship mass, quite generous like Baby Jesus offered us by God.
ART is the natural attitude of the soul, wrote Lissa de Guia. Even in sorrow and pain, true artists connect to their art. Imagine performing your music for 40 years. Think of how Martin Nievera persisted, irrespective of his surroundings and circumstances, in giving the best of his performances to fans as if they are the king.
“No one ever told me I was good. No one ever told me, ‘You’re great.’ Then, someone had to name me Concert King. It’s hard to live with the name Concert King. My philosophy is that as a singer, I want to be that singer who gives a performance fit for a king, and the king, for me, is the audience,“ Martin shared.
Joyful moments defined the #M4D concert at Walt Disney Concert Hall in Los Angeles.
Journalist Ruben V. Nepales described it: “The show is a big milestone for Martin, known as the Philippines’ Concert King, as he bows in revered architect Frank Gehry’s landmark hall.”
Martin was accompanied by his live band, who traveled all the way from Las Vegas and returned home that same night.
Goodwill greetings from Martin’s peers
Apl.de.ap introduced a nine-minute video, came in person to give tribute to Martin, and watched the compilation of greetings from their professional colleagues:
*Pilita Corrales described how she knew the first time she saw him that he would be a superstar.
*Coco Martin thanked him for helping with the theme song of a teleserye, Juan de la Cruz.
*Becca Godinez, who met Martin when he was 17 years old and forecasted his success, and now witnessing the “stretching of his vocal cords to reach high notes. You give to your audience, and that is what endears and brings them with you.”
*Regine Alcasid and Ogie Alcasid, who playfully had a short repartee to greet Martin.
*Susan Anton acknowledged Martin’s concerts getting audiences’ raves.
*Manny Pacquiao, Sharon Cuneta, and Piolo Pascual greeted him as well.
*The most meaningful and loving greeting came from his ‘bro,’ Gary Valenciano. Gary described their journey together as fellow artists, how they would try to outmatch each other and, by doing so, became even better professionals. He was certain they would reach heaven and perhaps joke about who outlasted whom. He ended it with an endearing “I love you, bro!”
*Lea Salonga congratulated him for performing on the best acoustical stage in Los Angeles and for a fantastic career that had longevity because he was such a joy to be with, having so much fun and “being such a presence [onstage], makulit (persistently annoying) whom I highly respect and love.”
Ikaw was sung by Martin Nievera, quite endearing and quite a spectacular Disney Hall performance, attended by 1,601 folks in August, a tough vacation month to fill up venues.
I replayed the video vignettes, feeling the emotions that he conveyed, with every lyrics sung expressing tender feelings of love, one would surmise – is he singing to his three sons or to his current partner?
Ikaw ang bigay ng Maykapal (You are a gift from God)
Tugon sa aking dasal (The answer to my fervent prayer)
upang sa lahat ng panahon (So that for the time that goes by)
bawat pagkakataon (Every opportunity)
Ang ibigin ko’y ikaw. (I get to love you)
Ikaw ang tanglaw sa aking mundo (You are the light in my world)
kabiyak nitong puso ko (The other half of my yearning heart)
wala ni kahati mang saglit (No one even in a split of time)
na sa iyo’y may papalit (There will be no one else)
ngayong kailanman ikaw (Now and forever, but you).
At the press conference convened by Ted Benito as director and producer in August 2022, I told Martin that I would read my questions, to which he responded with wit, “I will read my answers.” That quickly gained rapport with me.
“I am an aging grandmother, that I cannot help attending your press conference. I saw you perform TwoGether with Pops Fernandez and I like you both a lot, so I followed you performing at a casino. This is my third concert, and I bought the first seven tickets for my family,” I told him.
Martin asked, “was it the 80s, the 90’s?”
“I watched the most recent ones,” I told him.
First question: Spirit is the substance of reality, deeper than your young boyish, handsome looks; deeper than the inked letters of the lyrics you are going to be singing, describe please your parenting spirit to your sons, your publicly declared treasures, Robin and Ram (his sons with ex-wife Pops Fernandez and Santino (his son with ex-partner Katrina Ojeda) a savant, a gifted child for a specific zone of knowledge.
Martin’s response: “We’re waiting to see what that is. Every parent who has a special child hopes he or she is a savant or some sort of genius. We want to tell ourselves we did good, but my son [Santino] has gone through many different moments where he changes ’savant-ness.” Right now, he loves to play the drums. He told me he would play the drums for you on August 28. That’s the one place where he is at peace, and he’s the calmest. I think it’s because of numbers, just doing one number. I mean, everything is moving at the same time. I think that seems to be where we are.”
“This is the longest he’s been with something. He tried the piano. We bought a piano. Two days later, we didn’t need the piano anymore. He tried the violin. Not even a day later, we don’t need the violin.”
“We tried everything. We read the book; this is what will happen to our special kids. Well, not all kids end up that way. They find what I call different magic,’ and we’ve been waiting to see what the magic of Santino will be.”
“You’re going to have to be with me as we look forward to that day. When we know exactly what it is that he will be when I’m already six feet under. And that’s my biggest fear.”
“For all three kids, it’s hard to be the father I wish I were because I’m not present. I’m never there. With Santino, if I was guilty that I lost time with Robin and Ram, what more with Santino because his mother and I are no longer together?”
“Every child I have, their mother and I are not together, so how could I accept the award for the best father of the year? It’s always haunting me that I’m not good enough for my kids. My love, my time, as precious, as rare—it’s not the quantity but the quality.”
“I tell myself that all the time. This is how I get when I talk about my kids because I don’t deserve anything more than what I’m getting now.”
Second question: How has music enhanced your parenting of these three young adult men? Will they embody what your heart carries – like a big tent to help anyone in crisis?
Martin’s response: “Maybe because they were at certain songs during my 40 years. They may not have seen what all of you saw during that time, but I was the father I was back then.”
“Let’s say the first albums, I was present. I was there all the time. We did things together. We slept in one bed together. Their only memories of their mother and me, that’s the first ten albums.”
“The second ten albums, the different songs that I wrote, and now you start seeing it in my lyrics that I am going through something, songs like “What’s on the Other Side.’ I’m wondering what is it like not to be me?”
“Songs like ‘Chasing Time’ – these are songs you may not have heard before. But that’s where I started to go as a composer because I was going through something. I struggled with my fame, struggled with Pops and her fame. Fame and fame don’t’ mix so that you know”.
“Two games don’t make a right. In the case of Santino, maybe in the next ten and onward, you will start seeing these songs of release, of happiness. This is the man I want to be. I’m happy with this man I’m in kind of songs.”
Then he shared the three lessons he learned in 40 years with those of us, the media folks in attendance: Never forget where you came from; Never forget the people who helped you and Remember the moment: There should be more than a Martin Nievera, just a Nievera to be remembered, makes you a great performer.”
Even the Concert King has his vulnerabilities. He shared his “lack of presence” in his treasured children’s milestones. It had him teary-eyed at the August press conference in Glendale that this writer promptly said: “but you are doing that now,” reassuring him that while his art took away from his personal life, his music keeps legions alive, soulfully vibrant, and warm-hearted.
Martin also supports philanthropies, “I lend myself to charities. Last June 25, I performed and raised Php 3,700,000 to make a difference in 70 children’s lives with heart disease. One I met was a young girl who told me, “My grandma loved you and told me before she died.”
Many were singing with him in the audience as he sang his favorite song, “Say That You Love Me,” which he said that even his mom wrote a chorus for in Spanish. At Disney Hall last August 29, 2022, fans would shout out their love for Martin, and he would say loudly, pausing to exclaim: “I love you too.”
Quite memorable for me was when he sang Kahit Isang Saglit, dedicated to each of his three sons, accompanied by a video of Robin, Ram, and Santino.
When he sang ‘You are To me’, the three sons were invited to share the stage. The highlight of that evening was seeing Santino on the drums, perfect pitch, enjoying himself to the tune of ‘Sweet Child of Mine.’
When Bones was played by Robin, we knew that the torch had been passed on from Martin to his three sons, surnamed Nievera.
With these songs, and aptly closing the performance with ‘Say that You love me,’ ‘Forever,’ and ‘Wonderful World,’ the fans just knew we needed to see more of Martin Nievera and his three gifted sons.
During an ASAP event in Las Vegas, before a full capacity audience on November 5, 2022, many of his fans shouted loudly, “We love you, Martin.” * * *
Prosy Abarquez-Delacruz, J.D. writes a weekly column for Asian Journal called “Rhizomes.” She has been writing for AJ Press for 12 years. She also contributes to Balikbayan Magazine. Her training and experiences are in science, food technology, law, and community volunteerism for four decades.
She holds a B.S. degree from the University of the Philippines, a law degree from Whittier College School of Law in California, and a certificate in 21st Century Leadership from Harvard’s Kennedy School of Government.
She has participated in NVM Writing Workshops taught by Prof. Peter Bacho for four years and Prof. Russell Leong for. She has traveled to France, Holland, Belgium, Spain, Portugal, Japan, Costa Rica, Mexico, and over 22 national parks in the U.S. in her pursuit of love for nature and the arts.
